This page is
about how to cope with living with CKD on a daily basis, both from an
emotional and a practical perspective.
The fact that
CKD is ultimately terminal can be very hard to deal with. You may also be
worried about how much to put your cat through, bearing in mind your cat's
personality and the costs involved - looking after a CKD cat may sometimes
require a lot of your time and energy and sometimes money.
most cases people and cats do learn to cope, and seeing how your cat
improves and then stabilises makes it well worth it in most cases.
If you've just received the diagnosis, you're no doubt feeling scared and
frightened. You're worried you can't do this, and you may well be feeling
guilty for not noticing sooner thar your cat is sick.
Remember, it's not actually possible to notice CKD until at least 66% of
kidney function has already gone - that's the nature of the disease, so
you have nothing to feel guilty about. Even if you still think you have
something to feel guilty about (food choices are a major source of guilt,
even though food does not cause CKD), ditch it anyway, because it uses up
valuable energy which you need for the journey ahead. And your cat loves
you whatever you did or didn't do.
If you're not sure how much you and your cat can cope with, I would
suggest that you opt for a trial period of, say, one month, during which
you treat your cat to the best of your ability, and according to your
financial limitations, and then review the situation. With luck your cat
will be stable and happy and you will both be getting into a routine that
works for you both. If your cat is critically ill, I would still give
yourselves a minimum of two weeks of treating proactively before making
any irrevocable decisions.
What is the Emotional Rollercoaster?
rollercoaster refers to the mixed emotions you will feel as you care for
your CKD cat. When your cat is doing well, you will feel good but
will probably also be wondering how long it will last; and when your cat is
poorly, you will feel emotionally drained and very frightened.
These ups and downs are referred to on
Tanya's CKD Support Group as the emotional rollercoaster.
This page talks about how to cope with the rollercoaster ride.
One of my support group members, Stephanie, wrote
"We cannot control whether they will die, because they will, as all living
things do, but oh boy, can we control the way in which they live."
Although this is good news, it is also a big responsibility, and occasionally things will get on top of you, particularly if you
have little or no support at home. Some people cope better than others,
depending upon their own personality or how well their cat is doing; but
everybody living with CKD needs some level of support at some stage of the
You have to accept that you are going to have days when you feel
overwhelmed, when you really do not think you can cope anymore, or when
you feel you don't want to live this way anymore. You know what? - it is
perfectly fine to feel that way. You are caring for a chronically ill
family member, and facing the eventual loss of a treasured friend, a major
emotional trauma. Accept that you may feel this way, and that it is fine
to do so; and just get through the bad days the best you can.
Be kind to yourself
and accept that something's probably got to give. Yes, your home may in
part resemble a pet food or hospital supply
store, but as long as it's hygienic, who cares. Focus on the important
things: make sure you get enough sleep, eat properly, keep things clean,
hang on to your job if you have one and care for your family. Anything else is a bonus.
Your cat may not act exactly the same, which you may find scary at first,
fearing a crash. We all want things to be the way they were before, but
life is all about change, and we must go with the flow. Don't focus on the
numbers or hope for your cat to get better - instead, focus on trying to
make your cat as comfortable and happy as possible, and savour your time
Eventually you will both learn to accept this new
Try to get into a routine, but don't sweat it if things slip sometimes.
Consistency is the goal, not perfection. Cats are very forgiving. If
you're having a really bad day, or if sub-Qs don't go too well one day,
take a day off. I would always give blood pressure or heart medications
and make sure your cat eats, but otherwise the occasional day off should
not be a problem for either of you.
If you are feeling stressed, take a hot bath, buy yourself a book (if you
like thrillers, here is a blatant plug for my Dad's
books - he's really
good, and I'm not remotely biased) or a bunch of flowers, and most importantly,
give your cat a big hug and tell yourself that having to live with CKD is
much, much superior to the alternative. Consider using Bach
Flower Remedies (see Holistic
Treatments) for yourself on days like this.
Don't forget, your cat can pick up on your mood, so try also to
focus on the fact that you do still have your cat with you, and try to
enjoy his or her presence. Don't only interact with your cat by medicating
and giving fluids. Stroke him/her, talk to them, tell them how you are
trying to help. Many people find the bond with their cat is deepened as they
progress along the CKD journey together, and find that they develop as a
person whilst learning how to care for their beloved cat.
Helpguide has an article on recognising
and controlling stress.
Dear Mom is an article which will
probably make you smile wryly when you realise it could well have been
written by your cat.
About the Future (Anticipatory Grief)
means that you worry about and
grieve over losing someone you love before they have actually gone. When
you are caring for a terminally ill cat it is
common to panic if your cat is having an off day, even though ups and downs are
very common in CKD. But sometimes it's even worse than that, and you find
yourself worrying even on good days. You worry so much about what is
around the corner, and how you will cope, that you forget to enjoy the
time you have together now. You may begin to focus more on your cat's
illness than on your cat, forgetting that this is still the cat you know
and love, even though his or her behaviour may be a little different.
I did this all the time with Tanya (though I was a little better with
Thomas). I spent much of my time sobbing, as I envisaged life without
Tanya, and I forgot to focus on the fact that right at that moment we were
still together. Yet all that worrying and sobbing did not change the
course of her disease, or postpone her death. When I look back now, I wish
I had spent less time fearing the future and more time living in the
present, stroking and holding my lovely girl.
You may also find yourself trying to distance yourself emotionally from
your cat, in a sub-conscious effort to spare yourself pain when he or she
dies. But it doesn't work, you are going to feel pain at that time anyway, so you
may as well try to enjoy your time together now, in fact try to savour
every moment, enjoying your cat's uniqueness.
Try to take it a day at a time rather than thinking too far ahead. When you get up
each day, if your cat seems
relatively stable, give thanks and resolve to enjoy the day. If worrying thoughts enter your mind, send
them away, telling yourself "yes, s/he will die, but not today."
was diagnosed with terminal cancer, and the vet said he might only have a
week or two to live, I made a conscious decision that I was going to do my
best not to do anticipatory grieving. I figured if we didn't have much
time left, I was going to savour and cherish every moment, and anyway,
there would be plenty of time for tears later. So each day I would get up,
and be glad Harpsie was still there, and if he would eat breakfast (I was very
lucky that he did keep eating) and his breathing was no worse (he had
secondary lung cancer), and he seemed reasonably comfortable, I'd say to
myself "I don't think today is the day", and then I'd focus on enjoying
Of course I would get bad moments if he became subdued later in the day or
something like that, and sometimes I'd get upset anyway, because the
thought of losing him was so horrible. But I did largely avoid
anticipatory grief, and I'm so very glad I did. I now have memories of our
last two weeks together of him eating as I held the plate for him, of
little chats where I told him how much I love him, rather than of me
sobbing into his fur coat all the time (though I did this sometimes, of
course). So do try if at all possible to just live in the moment and not
worry too much about tomorrow. But of course there's nothing wrong with
expressing your sorrow and fear sometimes too, bottling it up is not good
Anticipatory grief often includes bargaining. When Harpsie was diagnosed
with terminal cancer, my bargain was "OK, I accept I have to lose him, but
I would at least like to be allowed to keep him until June please". In
fact, we had to have Harpsie put to sleep on 23 May because of breathing
difficulties. My bargain was not a bargain
at all, because the situation was completely beyond my control - Harpsie's
cancer progressed at a rate that had nothing to do with me. The Pet loss
link below does have some information on the types of bargains which are
more likely to be helpful to you.
I know all this is easier said than done, but this quotation might help
you to live in the moment:
"There are persons who shape their lives by the fear of death,
and persons who shape their lives by the joy of life.
The former live dying; the latter die living."
Doug and the B Brothers
has an excellent article about how to cope with the fear that
typically accompanies caring for a cat with CKD.
Pet-loss has a helpful article
about what it calls "pre-bereavement", or coming to terms with the fact
that your cat has a terminal illness.
and your vet have a good rapport and are able to work as a team, it can
make a world of difference to how you cope with CKD. Conversely, if your
vet is not prepared to work with you at giving your cat a chance, it is an
extra burden, making you feel like your cat's fate ultimately rests in
It may be that you are never going to see eye to eye, in which case you
need to find another vet; but it might equally
well be a simple misunderstanding. British vets in particular are very conscious of the
quality of life issue, and may misinterpret your attempts to give your cat
a chance and to make him/her more comfortable as you being incapable of
letting go, no matter how ill your cat is.
Do be prepared to listen to
your vet's opinions and medical knowledge, they have an important
role to play in helping you to make decisions about your cat's wellbeing.
At the same time, your vet must understand and respect that this is your
cat and your opinions are valid too. Try to make
it very clear to your vet that you have your cat's interests at heart, not
your own, that you will let go when the time comes (if indeed you will),
but that you feel that time is not yet here. Essentially you have to learn how to be your cat's
Your Vet page has more information on how to work
in partnership with your vet.
If you're feeling alone, come and join
Tanya's CKD Support Group,
where you will find other people prepared to rejoice along with you on
your up days and to support you on the down days. Many people find it
really comforting to learn they are not alone as they ride the CKD
rollercoaster, and it really can make all the difference to how you cope
on a daily basis. As an added bonus, you can obtain practical advice on
problems that arise from people who have already experienced the same
problems and who know what works in handling them.
If Others Do Not Understand
Sadly this is a
common problem. Many people around you will not understand why you are
so upset about your cat's illness. I only had one friend who really
understood how I felt when Tanya was sick. You will probably also lose count, as I
did, of the number of people who tell you that you are foolish to
spend your money treating your cat; yet what could be a more important way
of spending money than on extending the life of a loved one?
If you wish, you can try to explain to those
around you why it matters to you that your cat is terminally ill;
but if they are unable to understand, then save your energy and try not to take it too
personally. Really, these people are to be pitied because they obviously
have never experienced the special bond that you have with your cat. If
all else fails, tell them you need to feel you have done your absolute
best to help your cat in order to minimise any guilt you might feel later
on; many people will be able to understand if you phrase it that way. Then
do not raise the subject again, but instead seek support elsewhere, such
Tanya's CKD Support Group.
Although it is hard to accept, your life and that of your cat have now
changed. This is upsetting, I know, but you have to face up to it and
focus on finding your "new normal" - what works for both of you now in light
of the diagnosis and all that comes with it. Your new normal may change
again over the months and years, but that is OK, you will adapt to that
normal too. Here are some tips to help you from a practical perspective:
One important step I recommend is to get into a routine as soon as you
can. This may be hard initially when you don't know if you are coming or
going, but it will help you and your cat cope better (cats love routine)
and will ensure you don't forget to give a medication.
record of your cat's situation so you have less to
Also try to make things easier for both of you. For example, if your cat
adopts a bed a long way from the kitchen, place food and water bowls and a
littler tray nearby so your cat does not have to go too far.
Some people get depressed because their cats start to
hide from them. It is common for cats to hide at the beginning of the CKD
journey when they do not feel well, see
This should improve as your cat starts to feel better.
Medications are often an important part of your cat's treatment plan.
If you think your cat is starting to fear you because s/he does not like
being pilled, see Medicating
Your Cat for tips on making giving medications less stressful for both
of you. It is important not only to interact with your cat when giving
treatment - don't forget cuddles. It can help if you use a special word
before medicating your cat - this helps your cat know when medications are
coming, and means s/he should not be wary of you when you approach at
If you are prone to forgetting whether or not you have given a
My Med Schedule
allows you to create a free med schedule and to receive reminders via text
or e-mail. People who work fulltime and who are using gelcaps to give
medications often find it can be less stressful to fill a week's worth of
gelcaps in one go at the weekend.
It is always hard at the beginning, especially if your cat is in crisis at
diagnosis, but hang in there. Once you have your routine going (e.g.
you've managed to find a food your cat likes, and s/he enjoys it and keeps
it down), and you can see how it is helping your cat, the thrill and
relief will be indescribable.
the Financial Burden
Unfortunately veterinary treatment is not cheap. There is no reason why it should it be,
vets have trained for many years and have a lot of overheads; but that
doesn't make it any less stressful for you if money is tight.
If your cat is
insured, then the financial burden will be much less. I would consider insuring your non-CKD cats (I do not know of any insurance
company that would take on a cat post-diagnosis) in order to remove this
strain in the future. You can either obtain commercial insurance or
self-insure (save money every month in a savings account for a rainy day).
If you do insure your cat, make sure you use a company which provides
cover for life; some companies will only pay for a condition for a maximum
of twelve months, which is of limited use for a cat with a chronic disease
like CKD. Other companies may only insure up to a certain age (as young as
eight in some cases).
Pet Insurance University
explains more about what to look for when purchasing pet
Pet Insurance Review compares cover
options in USA and Canada.
It is possible to buy many of your supplies, particularly those relating
to sub-Q fluids or ESAs (Aranesp, Epogen, Procrit or Eprex) from on-line pharmacies
at much reduced prices.
Obtaining Supplies Cheaply has links to such suppliers in the USA, UK
If your cat
is not insured and you are unable to obtain cheap supplies, but your cat is doing well on treatments, politely ask your vet if
he/she could possibly give you a reduction for ongoing treatments, or
perhaps provide some of the supplies you need at cost, either regularly or
occasionally. Your vet does not have to agree to this but may do so in
some cases. Also, if you can afford the upfront outlay, consider buying
in bulk: once we knew Thomas was stable we bought his supplies for two
months at a time from our vet and it worked out much cheaper for us.
If you are finding things a struggle, check out the
Treatments page to learn which treatments are crucial and where you
can afford to be a bit more flexible.
In the USA or Canada, some veterinary clinics accept a payment scheme
This is essentially a credit card just for veterinary fees, which offers a
variety of payment options, from interest free periods (usually for six
months, though it depends upon the vet) to extended payment
plans. Unfortunately it did not have a very good report from the
Better Business Bureau
(though it has improved recently and is now rated B), but if you
already have a standard credit card, you might prefer to use that. Try to
avoid paying interest if you can because like many cards, the Care Credit
card has a high interest rate once interest kicks in.
Most people have to earn their living
in some way, which will probably limit the amount of time that they can
spend with their CKD cat. This can be particularly distressing if your cat
is having a bad time yet you have to go into work or care for your
children or elderly relatives.
Try not to feel guilty about the
conflicting demands on your time. If possible, take some time off work or
find somebody who can take your children out of the house for a few hours if your
cat is very poorly but do not beat yourself up if this is not possible. Try
to make your cat comfortable and if possible arrange for somebody to call in and check
on the cat's wellbeing - if you are at work, a phone call at lunchtime to
tell you your cat is bearing up can be enormously comforting.
If you need to take time off work because of your cat, I would simply say
a family member is sick. If you say you need time off to care for your
cat, many people will be unsympathetic, but your cat is indeed a family
member, even if it does not occur to them that that is what you mean.
If you work five days a week, spend some time on your free days doing
things that will help you during the busier times, such as cooking and
freezing meals for you to eat during the week, putting a week's worth of
pills into gelcaps, placing online orders for supplies etc.
It can be
problematic if you are due to go on holiday when your cat is diagnosed, or if your
work requires that you travel on business.
You may decide not to go on
holiday while your cat has CKD but bear in mind that your cat could live
for several years with this disease. In the USA and Canada it is possible
to book petsitters who are happy to give your cat fluids and medications
each day, but at this stage fluids are largely unknown in the UK so most
petsitters would not be able to do this. You might be able to persuade a
family member or a friend to learn how to treat your cat and to step into
your shoes while you are away if your cat is relatively stable; or a local
cattery may be able to assist.
You could also ask at your vet's: often one
of the vet nurses (vet techs) will be happy to come in twice a day to
check your cat, give sub-Qs and medications and deal with food and littertrays in order to boost their income.
This is what I do.
If all else fails, consider booking your cat into your vet's - a least
your cat will get the necessary medications while you are away and the
staff in most veterinary surgeries will also stroke the cats and play with
them if they are well enough and if time permits.
And if you do go away, please try to enjoy your break: if you return with
recharged batteries, it can give you the boost you need to carry on and
your cat will benefit.
Some people who travel regularly on business set up a webcam so they can check on their
cat. This can be very reassuring.
Of course, you may have to travel with your cat. I've flown across the
Atlantic twice with cats, so I know something about this. Please visit
Harpsie's website for more information.
probably be very concerned about your cat's quality of life; but please do not
forget your own quality of life in the process. CKD is a very hard disease
to live with, and if you feel you must be a saint in the process it can be
You may experience immense frustration e.g. if your cat is urinating
inappropriately (which fortunately is not that common in CKD cats). Whilst
your frustration is probably aimed more at the disease than at your cat,
it is possible that occasionally you will find yourself taking this stress
out on your cat by shouting at him or her. This is obviously not something
to be proud of, and you should try to avoid this kind of behaviour; but it
is at least understandable. Please do try your best not to take your
stress and frustration out on your cat, but if it does happen, try to put
some space between you for a while until you regain some perspective; and
tell yourself that your cat will remember many years of loving care rather
than one moment of weakness.
We all have our own personal limits in other ways too. Just as some people
have more emotional resources than others, so some people have more money
than others. If you can easily find the money to pay for your cat's
treatment, that is one less stress for you; or you may not have too much
money but are happy to go without other things in order to pay for your
cat's treatment. It becomes more complicated though if you have others to
consider apart from your cat; or if you simply do not have much money. It
might theoretically be possible, for example, to take out a loan to pay
for your cat's care; but not everybody can bear the strain of making loan
repayments for months or years to come.
One thing that can be very difficult is if your other half is not
supportive, and/or objects to the cost (financial or your time) of caring
for your cat. Even if your partner does not understand, ask them to at
least tolerate your efforts because it is important to you.
is no shame in acknowledging your own personal limitations in all these
areas, and trying to accept them. This does not mean you love your cat any
less, just that you have other demands on your financial and emotional
resources, and that you must juggle everything as best you can. You are
only human and can only do your own personal best - as long as you do
that, you have nothing to reproach yourself for.
Your cat also has limitations. Some cats cope better with treatments than
others. Some cats are so timid or frightened at the vet's that they find
being an in-patient highly stressful. Actually, I think most cats find
hospitalisation scary - I wish vets would find ways to make this easier on
them, e.g. by not having dogs in the same room. If your cat is going to be
kept in hospital, have a little chat. Explain that you know it is scary,
but that it is the best way to help them, and it is only for a short
while. Or have your cat kept on IV in hospital in the day and bring
him/her home overnight.
Your cat will probably be exhausted when s/he comes out of hospital;
again, this is normal. so don't panic. Give yourselves a couple of weeks
of treatment to try to get into a routine - see
above. If your cat
is not coping, discuss with your vet which treatments are the most crucial
(I would say sub-Q fluids if appropriate, phosphorus binders if required,
medication for hypertension and anaemia if present, and treatments for
excess stomach acid and/or constipation if needed - all things that can
help your cat feel better), and give those to your cat, and skip the rest
if necessary. Remember, the goal is to make your cat feel more
comfortable, not to torture you both. Give it a couple of weeks, and with
luck things will look a lot brighter. If, however, you decide your cat
simply cannot cope, anymore, then you must do what is best for him or her.
Mary Helen and Snicklefritz
Here is Mary Helen's story of how she decided what was important to her
and her elderly CKD cat, Snicklefritz. This was in response to someone who
asked why people keep cats with CKD alive when there is no cure for the
disease. Your own criteria may be different but I think Mary Helen's words
help us to realise that cats do not worry about their own health the way
we worry for them.
"Snicklefritz wanted to live, and it was my job to support that until she
was ready to leave. Because she could not speak English, it was up to me
to work with the vet to carry out her wishes. Really very simple.
"My father is in kidney failure and he doesn't always feel great, but he is
preparing for dialysis and transplant screening, because he's willing to
endure those "extreme measures" so that he can continue to live. Why
our cats be different?
"Snicklefritz was 22 years old and age had taken its toll, but her will to
live was strong. Her eyesight had dimmed over the years and she no longer
looked out the windows, but just because her world had gotten smaller
didn't mean she didn't treasure her little niche.
"She was arthritic and didn't walk and jump like she had, but that didn't
keep her from enjoying her plush cat bed right in the middle of the living
room, the center of the action, where she could watch and enjoy as family
life with a toddler swirled around her. She happily slept with crayon
drawings, stuffed animals, all kinds of crazy things tucked into her bed
by my daughter, to the point where sometimes her happy purrrring face and
the tip of her tale were all that you could see. She didn't need to walk
much, her loving presence filled our house and people came to her.
"She reigned supreme in her little fiefdom, and she was not about to give
that up until she was ready. I'm not saying she liked the medicines, the
vet trips, the fluids. But even though her life was very limited
physically, she was happy loving us and being loved, and it was enough for
"My mother lives out of state and had heard the saga of Snicklefritz's
decline. She loved Snickle dearly and had gently suggested a couple of
times that perhaps it was time to let her go. Well, my mother came to
visit and watched as my darling 3.5-pound, arthritic old girl carefully
and slowly walked across the room. With tears in her eyes, Mom looked at
me and said it was like watching the walking dead.
"And then, Snickle taught my mom a lesson. In her classic Snickle-way, she
taught my mother an important thing about life. Never cranky, never
scolding, always full of joy and love...
"She went over and somehow managed to hop up to Mom's lap by herself. And
she settled down and began to purrr her HUGE happy purr. And she looked up
at my mother's face and gave her that slow wink of contentment and love.
"Snickle may not have had much of a life, but it was enough. She might have
felt pretty lousy, but it was worth it to be able to be with those that
"She was 22 and wasn't going to be cavorting about like a kitten, CKD or
not. But she was older and wiser and needed different things to make her
happy. A soft bed, a loving family, that was what mattered to her at the
end. She made a tremendous effort to say "goodbye" to us in her final
illness and then she let go and stopped fighting. It was time, and
although I miss her more than I can describe, I know that she was ready to
"I think we can focus too much on what our cats have lost through their
illness and not enough on what remains. Simple things like warm sunshine
and time with our loved ones are the essence of joy...
"My daughter was privileged to know Snicklefritz until she was almost 3.5
years old and was nursed through her second surgery by that old, frail
kitty that loved with a passion and a strength that belied her tiny,
arthritic body. We have greatly mourned the loss of our beloved feline
companion, but we have also learned so much about the strength of love.
And I know that my daughter knows that I would care for her with the same
love and patience that I gave Snickle, even when it was not easy, even
when I felt I could barely go on. And I learned that about myself as
people have more than one cat, and can find that this makes dealing with
CKD even harder. You may find it tricky trying to feed your CKD cat a
different food to the others (see
Which Foods to Feed for more on this). You may feel guilty for giving so much of your time to
the cat who is ill, perhaps feel you are neglecting your healthy cats.
Your healthy cats will probably sense that something is not right, and may
start to act differently. This is fairly common when the sick cat has been hospitalised and returns home - the other cats may hiss and spit and not
accept the sick cat. This is usually only because the sick cat smells
differently, and of the hospital to boot: if you can make all the cats
smell alike, perhaps by rubbing each cat with a piece of your clothing or
dabbing them on the nape of their neck with a tiny amount of vanilla, this
behaviour usually disappears.
If you can, try to find a little time each day for your healthy cats - it
can be very comforting spending time with a cat who doesn't need much
care, and of course it is good for the cat too. But if you simply cannot
find the time, do not worry too much, you can always spend time with your
healthy cats later on, but your CKD cat's needs must take priority for
I am sometimes asked whether people should get another cat to keep their
CKD cat company. This question often arises if another family cat dies,
and the CKD cat becomes an only cat. It does partly depend upon the
personality of your CKD cat - some cats are simply more sociable than
others. However, cats are solitary predators, which means they will need
time to adapt to a newcomer; and to expect an elderly sick cat to suddenly
accept another cat in his/her territory can be very stressful. A 16 year
old cat is 80 years old in human terms, so being asked to suddenly share
the home with a baby or teenager (a kitten or young cat) can be really
hard. For this reason I would be particularly reluctant to adopt a kitten
in such circumstances, but if you do decide to do so, please adopt two
kittens so they can play with each other and leave your CKD cat in peace. Harpsie's
Website has some tips on how to introduce a new cat.
can often be very helpful to create memories of your cat, in the form of
photographs, video recordings, collecting locks of hair etc. - whatever
appeals to you. My husband arranged for portraits of Tanya and Harpsie to
be painted for me as a birthday present one month before Tanya was
diagnosed, and I find them enormously comforting now both of them are
also happened to start videoing Tanya a few weeks before
her diagnosis, and I continued to film her even when she was ill. Before
she died, I felt sure I would never be able to watch the videos after she
was gone; but in fact, only a few days after she died, I felt the urge to
watch them, and I sat there, with tears streaming down my face, yet at the
same time finding the images tremendously comforting. I had begun to worry
that I had kept her with me for too long, but watching the video taken
only two weeks before she died, when she actually looked relatively well
and happy despite being very thin, reassured me about her quality of life during those last few
weeks; while seeing her before her diagnosis enabled me to remember her at
her best. I still watch those videos even now, and they never fail to lift
my spirits. Of course, I also have videos of Thomas, which are equally
Please try to remember that living with
CKD is not always
doom and gloom. The first few weeks after Thomas crashed when we were
trying to stabilise him were certainly very hard emotionally,
with us wondering every day if he would last another week; but after the
first few weeks it was really quite simple. Giving him his medications
took only 15-20
minutes a day and for the rest of the time he acted like a healthy cat,
eating, sunbathing, grooming himself - and it delighted us to see it.
When you reach some level of stability like this, then it really does make
the emotional rollercoaster worthwhile. In addition, many people on
Tanya's CKD Support Group find
that their bond with their cat is deepened as a result of the joint effort
in fighting CKD. If you'd like some support, come and join the group.